France
has always
been a crossroads
of Europe,
so it should
be no surprise
that French
wedding
customs
are a rich
mix of customs
from other
cultures
together
with those
nurtured
in the most
romantic
country
in the world.
During
the Middle
Ages, the
prospective
Breton groom
left a hawthorn
branch for
his sweetheart
as a signal
she was
his chosen
bride. Hawthorn
has been
used as
a herbal
remedy for
heart problems
for centuries.
Other grooms
used the
village
tailor as
a go between
who arranged
things with
the girl
and her
parents.
Confirming
an engagement
with a gift
of jewelry
is an ancient
custom,
but diamond
jewelry
first caught
the attention
of fashionistas
at the court
of King
Charles
VII when
he gave
diamonds
to the notorious
Agnès Sorel
rather than
to his wife,
thereby
proving
himself
the true
son of his
father,
Charles
the Mad.
French
brides to
be receive
the credit
for the
idea of
the trousseau,
originally
a collection
of clothing
and household
linens stored
in a hope
chest or
elaborately
carved armoire.
This
armoire
was destined
to become
a central
piece of
furniture
in the household
of the newlyweds.
Some sources
go further
and suggest
the concept
of the trousseau
contributed
to the development
of the bridal
showers
we hold
today.
Since
regular
bathing
was not
possible
without
elaborate
plumbing,
a pre-wedding
bath became
a necessary
custom for
French brides
– and hopefully
their fiancés
– though
whether
bathing
grew from
a desire
for cleanliness
or ritual
purification
is unclear.
Certainly,
richly scented
flowers
have
always played
an important
part in
French weddings.
Their aroma
contributes
to the overall
beauty of
the service,
and the
traditional
romantic
language
of flowers
adds to
the message
of love
and joy.
However,
there was
a time when
the fashion
for orange
blossoms
outstripped
the seasonal
supply,
and some
brides resorted
to orange
blossoms
made of
wax.
While
Anne of
Brittany
is widely
credited
with wearing
the first
white wedding
dress, it
was Queen
Victoria's
friend and
contemporary,
the Empress
Eugénie,
who made
white the
color of
choice in
France.
Today's
French bride
wears a
chic, flattering
wedding
gown, but
regional
costumes
were once
popular.
In Brittany
for example,
brides yearned
for elaborately
skirted
dresses
of white
and purple
velvet and
gold cloth.
The
charming
village
custom of
the groom
to be escorting
his fiancée
and the
wedding
party to
the church
for the
ceremony
has survived.
In Brittany,
children
block the
road with
ribbons
that must
be cut by
the bride.
The groom
has to remove
briars that
have been
placed across
the road
by those
who demand
and receive
payment
for these
obstacles.
Once
the guests
have gathered
at the church,
the groom
and his
mother precede
the rest
of the wedding
party down
the aisle.
Near
the end
of the ceremony,
a protective
square of
silk, called
a "carré,"
is held
over the
heads of
the bride
and groom
as they
are blessed
by the priest.
This same
silk will
wrap their
children
when they
are baptized.
Like
couples
almost everywhere,
French newlyweds
can expect
their guests
to fling
something
at them
as they
leave the
church.
Depending
on local
custom,
guests might
throw grains
such as
wheat or
rice for
fertility
or even
gift the
bride with
loaves of
bread. Elsewhere,
guests toss
almond dragées
or coins
at the couple
who walk
over aromatic
laurel leaves
strewn outside
the door
of the church.
Toasts
of "health"
or "santé"
to the bride
and groom
hark back
to actual
toast. Even
today, a
piece of
bread may
be placed
in a traditional
two-handled
cup along
with wines
from two
different
vineyards.
This represents
the couple's
union, and
after they
drink the
wine, they
eat the
bread, a
symbol of
life.
The
French often
hire a professional
champagne
opener for
weddings.
This expert
uses a saber,
a Napoleonic
cavalry-style
sword, to
whack open
bottles
of celebratory
champagne.
The
croquembouche
has been
the traditional
French wedding
cake since
the 1600s.
This "mouth
cruncher"
is a golden
dream consisting
of a pyramid
of creampuffs
covered
with hard-crack
sugar and
then spun,
lightly
caramelized
sugar. The
concept
originated
from an
earlier
time when
guests would
stack little
cakes and
call for
the newlyweds
to kiss
over the
stack without
disturbing
it.
Dancing
is a popular
pastime
at French
weddings.
In Brittany,
the traditional
dance is
the "rond"
in which
people join
hands and
dance in
a circle.
Bridal
garters
and bouquets
have been
tossed at
French weddings
for hundreds
of years.
Originally,
it is suspected
the garter
was hurled
in the faces
of drunken
guests,
but flowers
have always
been thrown
to whomever
will be
next to
marry.
French
wedding
guests have
long believed
in extending
their participation
in the festivities
to the wedding
night. They
purposefully
disturb
the new
couple with
loud noises
and drunken
songs in
return for
another
drink or
two with
the bride
and groom.
This practice
is called
variously
"chiverie"
or "charivari."
French settlers
brought
the chiverie
to North
America
where it
became known
as a "shivaree."
When
the celebrations
wind down,
someone
may head
to the kitchen
to prepare
a strengthening
onion soup
as a morning
after pick-me-up.
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